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I’m a lurker on several blogs and one grabbed my attention this morning: Suddenly Single’s 5 Dating Dos. While I agree with a couple of these, I have my own list. Let me preface this by saying, this list is by completely subjective. All girls thoughts vary on this topic… but here’s my list.
Do be yourself. Please. There’s nothing I hate more than liars or people who change to please someone. It’s pretentious and ridiculous to deal with if I find out about it! If you belch normally after a good meal, let it out! I’m one of the girls who’ll laugh it off with you! If you get scared easily, don’t worry! You can grab onto me and I’ll not complain.
Don’t touch me unless I touch you. Personal space is very valuable to me and the faster you rush your hands into it, the faster I’ll shut you down.
Do text/call me randomly. It’s nice to know you’re thinking about me.
Don’t text me too much too often. My blackberry is a kick-ass piece of shit and gets every single one of your messages. Just because I don’t respond doesn’t not mean you should send a repeat message or ask why I’m not responding. I have a life and I’m easily distracted. I try to get back to texts within a couple days if I forget. But sometimes I can go a week without getting back to someone’s phone call. Sorry but it’s the truth… I’m trying to work on it though. However, the more you text me and you don’t get a response within the week, there’s likely a reason. I get sick of people physically, socially and text-ically really, really fast.
Do have an open mind. This is probably the most important! There are so many different kinds of people, cultures, and opinions in the world. I’m not asking that you accept and/or agree with me on such topics, but I ask that you respect them. Don’t dis please. I’ll return the favor.
(which leads me to…)
Don’t dominate the conversation. Yes, I want to learn more about you but there has to be some sort of balance, man!
Do let me open the door every once in a while. Now, I know what you’re thinking (if you’re a gentleman that is)– “But the guy is always supposed to open the door! It’s what’s right!” I’m not saying I don’t appreciate the gesture, because I do and I think it’s very romantic (if we are on a date). Though sometimes, I get a bit competitive and like to wear the pants. So let me! It makes me feel happy to see you look up in surprise and say “thank you.” Also, let me pay sometimes! It doesn’t make you any less of a man and it gives me peace of mind that you’re not going into debt.
Don’t call me woman, chick, bitch, etc… I find those terms very undermining and you’ll find yourself bitch slapped so quickly your head would spin.
Do say or call me beautiful. Pretty simple. Every girl loves this!
Don’t throw pity parties. I like confidence in a guy; I wouldn’t even mind a little cockiness because it shows you’re comfortable with yourself. If you’re comfortable with you then I will be too! Plus, I don’t want to hear all your sap stories and drama. I have enough of my own that I’d happily not share with you.
Do have a life! Sure I spend much of my day thinking about guys, but I still do other things and interests! I can’t spend every moment with you and I wouldn’t want to. I’d get sick of you and if I’m really into you, I’d hate myself for it. Hang with the guys, watch the football game, go to the gym, play WOW, whatever… just be interested in something. No, I changed my mind… Be passionate about something. It’ll make you more interesting!
Don’t do baby or “gay” talk. Period. Nothing–I repeat, nothing–turns me off faster. You might as well grab your pants and leave if I ever hear it as you’re taking me to bed.
Do give me time between dates. Like I said, I need my space.
Don’t put pressure on committing. It may be running through the back of my mind, but if you bring it up, it will scare the shit out of me. I’ve had trust and commitment issues for years. Once I feel I can trust you and we are heading that direction after a good amount of time, we’ll have to let the chips fall where they may! Until then, I like my opportunities.
Wow… didn’t expect it to be that long but I think you get the gist. I am picky. Deal with it.
If you have anything you’d like to add (girls), I’d be happy to see what others like and don’t like. As for you guys who happened to stumble across this, what do you think?
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Glad I could help you find some inspiration. I like your list as well!
Comment by Singlegal November 20, 2009 @ 2:55 PM